- TERF: we are here to abolish the genders
- Feminist: oh, so we won't use gendered pronouns anymore?
- TERF: no keep those
- Feminist: gendered clothing?
- TERF: no thats ok
- Feminist: segregated bathrooms?
- TERF: no those are important
- Feminist: so we're going to do something about the gender binary, yeah? We're going to attack the idea that gender is intrinsically linked to one's anatomy, and we're going to boost the visibility of trans and intersex people, who face the most violent consequences of the sex and gender binaries - yes?
- TERF: no
- Feminist: then what are you going to do, exactly? What is your plan? How are you going to accomplish this?
- TERF: abolish gender
- Feminist: How?
- TERF: abolish it
Kicking someone toxic—loving and well-meaning, but deeply bad for me—out of my life just as I start to form a new, stronger connection with someone I’ve known a while but not well. Funny how these things work.
— Richard Rodriguez, “New Atheism Has a Distinctly Neo-Colonial Aspect”, Salon (Dec. 15, 2013)
- accept that no pun is actually Good, but that the true nature of a good pun is to be so terrible that it becomes good.
- say every pun that occurs to you. i’m so serious about this, sometimes the most well received puns will be ones you considered not saying.
- ALWAYS laugh at your own puns, even if nobody else is. (especially if nobody else is.)
- know that you are hilarious. puns are a limitless resource and you have taken it as your duty to bring this gift to humanity. you are a hero.
If you step on my foot, you need to get off my foot.
If you step on my foot without meaning to, you need to get off my foot.
If you step on my foot without realizing it, you need to get off my foot.
If everyone in your culture steps on feet, your culture is horrible, and you need to get off my foot.
If you have foot-stepping disease, and it makes you unaware you’re stepping on feet, you need to get off my foot. If an event has rules designed to keep people from stepping on feet, you need to follow them. If you think that even with the rules, you won’t be able to avoid stepping on people’s feet, absent yourself from the event until you work something out.
If you’re a serial foot-stepper, and you feel you’re entitled to step on people’s feet because you’re just that awesome and they’re not really people anyway, you’re a bad person and you don’t get to use any of those excuses, limited as they are. And moreover, you need to get off my foot.
See, that’s why I don’t get the focus on classifying harassers and figuring out their motives. The victims are just as harassed either way."
The comment is in reference to sexual harassment that occurred at the Readercon convention and the subsequent defense of the situation by some members of fandom and the Readercon Board.
It’s also applicable to other situations where someone claims their intentions were pure and they didn’t mean to do something sexist/racist/heterosexist/abelist, etc. Even if you did not mean to step on someone’s foot—you did.
"cishet is a slur" lmfao do you hold your breath and recoil every time you hear that word, do you associate it with violence, do you fear for your life when you hear it tumbling out of someone’s mouth, do you have to listen to people you thought were your friends using it like it’s a joke, has anyone been killed over that word, has it been used to oppress and harm you for centuries? no i didn’t fucking think so grow up